The Enneagram can be a powerful tool for saving and strengthening relationships, because it fosters self-knowledge and deep empathy between people.
Although it is not a "magic formula" that solves problems on its own, it offers a map of human behaviour, laying bare the excesses, motivations, vulnerabilities, fears, desires and gifts of the personality.
The Enneagram identifies the motivations of each personality type, which makes it possible to understand the other person's attitudes, dispelling the common idea that they do something on purpose just to annoy us. It is simply that each of us has a different view of the world.
When we understand the other person, judgement and criticism tend to diminish, the urge to attack and defend is disarmed, and misunderstandings in relationships can be avoided.
It identifies the blind spots of the personality, inviting self-observation, and with it comes the self-knowledge that is essential to taking responsibility for one's own attitudes in a relationship.
It is worth remembering that we cannot change others, but we can change ourselves and, as a result, we will have a different interaction in the relationship.
Communication improves, because we learn to speak the other person's language, at the pace and in the terms that make sense to each one.
If there is a will to take relationships to a higher level and a willingness to “work on oneself” with the Enneagram, it is possible to build more peaceful, satisfying and compassionate relationships.
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